Confidence or insecurity: how do you distinguish?
A few days ago, I mentioned Married at First Sight , and this topic came to mind while I was watching one of the episodes. During one of the commitment dinners, a participant walked in with such an expansive and confident energy that it almost felt completely out of place. He seemed energetic, self-assured, even slightly playful - and I thought: “What kind of attitude is this?” Only later did I realize he was actually deeply uncomfortable with what people might say about him. After all, it was his second time on the show, and he felt judged because of it. That so-called “super confidence” turned out to be just a defence. A mask. And that moment stuck with me. How often do we get it wrong based on first impressions? How often do we assume someone is self-confident, cold, arrogant, fragile, or even shallow… based purely on the image they project in the first few minutes? We tend to believe we’re good at reading people. That we can immediately tell if someone is tru...
