How much weight do we place on ourselves in our expectations?
I’ve talked before about the expectations others place on us – and also about the ones we place on others. But there’s a type of expectation that often flies under the radar and yet can be one of the heaviest: the ones we place on ourselves. There are days when no one is asking anything of us, no one is demanding anything… and still, we feel guilty, pressured, or exhausted. Why? Because it’s us, silently, demanding it all. We want to do everything right. We want to be everything we think we should be. We want to be “good enough” – even if we don’t quite know good enough for what, exactly. Sometimes, these expectations even come disguised as motivation: “I want to give it my all”, “I want to do things properly”. And yes – wanting to grow is great. But when that drive turns into a relentless inner voice, it stops being healthy. It starts to become a weight that holds us back, wears us down, and makes us feel constantly not enough. A lot of these demands d...
