What kind of person do I want to be?
Before defining the kind of
person I want to be, I thought it was only fair to stop and ask myself: who am
I today?
Realistically, I’m someone who deeply values empathy, loyalty, and above all, truth. I like to believe I’ve been consistent with what I stand for - not just in words, but in actions. I live on autopilot, but I’m trying to change that bit by bit. I don’t hide behind excuses: if I mess up, I own it. And even though apologising still doesn’t come easy, I’ve been making a conscious effort to break through that emotional block.
For a long time, I struggled with criticism. But today, I’m someone who actively seeks it. Genuinely. I want to improve, to grow, to evolve. Strangely enough, what’s hardest for me now is accepting compliments - maybe because I often assume they’re just a polite way of avoiding hurting me. But even that is something I’ve been trying to redefine.
I’m not someone who holds grudges. I learned a long time ago that it only eats away at the person who carries them. And, as contra
dictory as it may seem, even though I’m reserved, I carry a heart that’s open to others.
When I’m feeling low, I’m usually already alone. I like silence. Introspection. Sometimes I just let myself be. I listen to something sad and cry - if I can. As I mentioned in another article, being vulnerable is hard for me. I have space within me to show emotion, yes, but I rarely do. I’d rather soften everything with a joke or some distraction. Maybe not out of shame, but out of self-protection.
Today, I’m someone who feels most authentic when I’m alone or with people who truly know me. I don’t waste time on relationships that don’t add to my life - and it’s not out of coldness, but awareness. I believe in deep friendships and meaningful exchanges. And when I give myself to someone, I give fully.
As a partner, I want to be a constant support. The one who doesn’t pull away in hard times, but draws closer. Who cares, understands, and gives space. Maybe I need to work on my need for validation, because I know it can weigh on a relationship. But I also know what I offer: presence, encouragement, and truth.
As a friend, I want to be in the front row for every win. Cheering with the same enthusiasm I’d love to receive. And in the dark moments, I want to be on stage too - offering a strong shoulder. A steady hand. A gaze that understands without judging.
As a son, I want to make my parents feel like it was all worth it. Even when they say they’re proud of me, I want to give back - not just in words, but through what I achieve. I want them, when the time comes to leave, to feel like they lived. And that they left behind someone who knew how to turn all that was given into something greater.
And that’s what I want to be. A multiplier of good. Of truth. Of presence.
I don’t want to be perfect, but I want to be more and more myself.
And you… what kind of person do you want to be?
Realistically, I’m someone who deeply values empathy, loyalty, and above all, truth. I like to believe I’ve been consistent with what I stand for - not just in words, but in actions. I live on autopilot, but I’m trying to change that bit by bit. I don’t hide behind excuses: if I mess up, I own it. And even though apologising still doesn’t come easy, I’ve been making a conscious effort to break through that emotional block.
For a long time, I struggled with criticism. But today, I’m someone who actively seeks it. Genuinely. I want to improve, to grow, to evolve. Strangely enough, what’s hardest for me now is accepting compliments - maybe because I often assume they’re just a polite way of avoiding hurting me. But even that is something I’ve been trying to redefine.
I’m not someone who holds grudges. I learned a long time ago that it only eats away at the person who carries them. And, as contra
dictory as it may seem, even though I’m reserved, I carry a heart that’s open to others.
When I’m feeling low, I’m usually already alone. I like silence. Introspection. Sometimes I just let myself be. I listen to something sad and cry - if I can. As I mentioned in another article, being vulnerable is hard for me. I have space within me to show emotion, yes, but I rarely do. I’d rather soften everything with a joke or some distraction. Maybe not out of shame, but out of self-protection.
Today, I’m someone who feels most authentic when I’m alone or with people who truly know me. I don’t waste time on relationships that don’t add to my life - and it’s not out of coldness, but awareness. I believe in deep friendships and meaningful exchanges. And when I give myself to someone, I give fully.
As a partner, I want to be a constant support. The one who doesn’t pull away in hard times, but draws closer. Who cares, understands, and gives space. Maybe I need to work on my need for validation, because I know it can weigh on a relationship. But I also know what I offer: presence, encouragement, and truth.
As a friend, I want to be in the front row for every win. Cheering with the same enthusiasm I’d love to receive. And in the dark moments, I want to be on stage too - offering a strong shoulder. A steady hand. A gaze that understands without judging.
As a son, I want to make my parents feel like it was all worth it. Even when they say they’re proud of me, I want to give back - not just in words, but through what I achieve. I want them, when the time comes to leave, to feel like they lived. And that they left behind someone who knew how to turn all that was given into something greater.
And that’s what I want to be. A multiplier of good. Of truth. Of presence.
I don’t want to be perfect, but I want to be more and more myself.
And you… what kind of person do you want to be?
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