How do we know if we are evolving?
This is one of those questions
that can pop up out of nowhere - in the middle of a conversation or in the
silence of an ordinary day. We grow, we change, we make an effort to be better.
But how can we know if it’s actually happening? How do we measure evolution - be
it personal, emotional, or creative - when the results aren’t as obvious as a
before-and-after photo?
Physical growth is easy to see. There’s visible evidence: we grow taller, our appearance changes, we accumulate birthdays. But mental and emotional growth is much more subtle. Sometimes, we don’t even realize we’ve evolved until we
face a situation that once would have knocked us down - only now, we manage to handle it with more ease, awareness, or even humour.
Maybe that’s where the signs begin: in the way we treat ourselves, how we respond to others, how we deal with our own flaws. Emotional growth doesn’t mean we’ll never mess up again - it means recognizing that we’re no longer who we were yesterday. That we have more tools, more filters, and more patience.
In the creative realm, this doubt shows up too. Are we writing better than before? Are we creating something new, or just repeating formulas that worked once? When we finish a new book, for instance, it’s easy to compare it to the last and wonder: Did I evolve, or did I just stay at the same level? But maybe the answer doesn’t lie in the complexity of the plot or the number of pages. Maybe it’s in the intention behind each detail, the care we put into the language, or the courage to take less obvious paths.
There’s a quiet trap in the pursuit of evolution: looking for external validation. Waiting for someone to tell us we’ve improved, that we’ve grown, that we have talent. But true growth doesn’t perform for an audience - it reveals itself slowly, from within.
A useful way to measure how far we’ve come is to compare ourselves with... ourselves. To look back at old texts and realize we’d write them differently today. To remember certain actions and know we’d act differently now. To have more clarity about what we want - or more courage to say what we don’t want.
The truth is, evolution rarely arrives with applause. Sometimes, it shows up in the silence of a firm no. Other times, in accepting a critique without crumbling inside. And still other times, in the calm knowing that not everything needs an immediate response.
If we’re asking ourselves whether we’re evolving, that alone is already a clear sign we’re paying attention to the process. And being attentive is, in itself, a way of growing.
Physical growth is easy to see. There’s visible evidence: we grow taller, our appearance changes, we accumulate birthdays. But mental and emotional growth is much more subtle. Sometimes, we don’t even realize we’ve evolved until we
face a situation that once would have knocked us down - only now, we manage to handle it with more ease, awareness, or even humour.
Maybe that’s where the signs begin: in the way we treat ourselves, how we respond to others, how we deal with our own flaws. Emotional growth doesn’t mean we’ll never mess up again - it means recognizing that we’re no longer who we were yesterday. That we have more tools, more filters, and more patience.
In the creative realm, this doubt shows up too. Are we writing better than before? Are we creating something new, or just repeating formulas that worked once? When we finish a new book, for instance, it’s easy to compare it to the last and wonder: Did I evolve, or did I just stay at the same level? But maybe the answer doesn’t lie in the complexity of the plot or the number of pages. Maybe it’s in the intention behind each detail, the care we put into the language, or the courage to take less obvious paths.
There’s a quiet trap in the pursuit of evolution: looking for external validation. Waiting for someone to tell us we’ve improved, that we’ve grown, that we have talent. But true growth doesn’t perform for an audience - it reveals itself slowly, from within.
A useful way to measure how far we’ve come is to compare ourselves with... ourselves. To look back at old texts and realize we’d write them differently today. To remember certain actions and know we’d act differently now. To have more clarity about what we want - or more courage to say what we don’t want.
The truth is, evolution rarely arrives with applause. Sometimes, it shows up in the silence of a firm no. Other times, in accepting a critique without crumbling inside. And still other times, in the calm knowing that not everything needs an immediate response.
If we’re asking ourselves whether we’re evolving, that alone is already a clear sign we’re paying attention to the process. And being attentive is, in itself, a way of growing.
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